An alienated child’s need to demonize the targeted parent

Someone posted on a message board I belong to (name omitted because I was not authorized to include it), that: Today I re[a]d an interview in a Dutch newspaper with someone who had lost his father (suicide) when he was young. As of this day, he remembered only bad things about his father. After therapy… read more

Coronavirus Pandemic (and the “Pandemic” board game) demonstrate the advantages of non-adversarial processes.

Image courtesy of Matt Leacock, The New York Times | March 31, 2020 For the last several years, we here have been talking and writing about “Divorce Without Destruction” and how people can get more, and better results, using cooperative strategies, than they could using adversarial ones. Game Theory teaches this and life bears it… read more

Parenting (a/k/a “visitation”) in the Age of Corona

There has been much discussion questioning whether a parent can deny the other access to their joint children during the Coronavirus pandemic under the theory that the denying parent is “just” protecting the children. Of course a parent must keep children safe.  Each parent likely shares that goal. The questions I would pose to those… read more

NYLJ Publishes The Perils of Prenups, authored by Chaim Steinberger

Beginning on February 28, 2020, and on the following three consecutive Fridays, the New York Law Journal will be publishing Chaim’s thoughtful articles on The Perils of Prenups.  In the first part, Chaim will explain why prenuptial agreements are often more dangerous and destructive than they are helpful.  The second article will describe certain situations… read more

ABA Family Law Section taps Steinberger to chair its Custody Committee

The Family Law Section of the American Bar Association appointed Chaim Steinberger to head its Custody Committee.  The Committee “[s]tudies and strives for improvements in the law relating to child custody and visitation, such as development of a model joint custody statute, standards for relocating children and rights of stepparents and unwed parents.”  Mr. Steinberger… read more

The Attributes of a Great Divorce Lawyer (i.e., “Good v. Great” )

By Chaim Steinberger (c) 2018 For several years I’ve been thinking about writing on the differences between a “good” lawyer and a “great” one. That is, many have written articles with titles like, “How to Pick a Divorce Lawyer” that try to help people select decent lawyers from among the poor ones. That doesn’t interest… read more

Complicated Custody Cases

On February 20, 2018, Attorney Chaim Steinberger presented to a chapter of the American Inns of Court at the Brooklyn Bar Association on the factors that New York Courts consider when determining custody.  Courts must always consider “the best interests of the child,” Mr. Steinberger noted.  That means that anything that affects a child is… read more

What is a “Negotiation Coach”?

A Negotiation Coach?  What’s That? By Chaim Steinberger (c) 2018 From time to time, I’m approached by people who don’t want to do their negotiating through lawyers. They may believe that lawyers might make matters unnecessarily complicated. They might inflame the situation. Or one party doesn’t want to hire a lawyer and doesn’t feel comfortable… read more

How Badly Will Divorce Harm My Children?

By Chaim Steinberger Approximately three times as many children of divorce drop out of school and have children of their own while they themselves are still teenagers than that of children of non-divorced parents.[ref] Taking Stock of Parent Education in Family Courts: Envisioning a Public Health Approach, 51 Family Court Review 131, 138 (2013).[/ref]  Twice… read more

Lucky Boy is Awarded Three Parents

In a recent, unusual decision the Supreme Court, Suffolk County (H. Patrick Leis, III, J.), awarded a 10-year old boy three parents. The unusual facts of the case justified this unusual result. The case, Dawn M. v. Michael M., 47 NYS3d 898, 2017 WL 923725 (Supreme Court, Suffolk Cty., 3/8/2017), involved a husband and wife… read more